You Don't Have To Be Broken To Be Better
"I'm fine."
This course is for you if:
Your attention and energy are always pulled elsewhere, and your free time is gobbled up by obligations or distractions.
You are pretty darned put together, but still wonder at how other people seem to manage all aspects of adulthood. Did you miss the manual?
There is niggling drama that haunts your romantic relationships, family of origin, work place, or circle of friends, and you just want to bury the hatchet.
You know there is a life you would like to be living, and wish you could move it up the priority list.
and?
You're pretty much fine, you'd just like to feel better.
BOUNDARIES ARE MORE THAN SAYING "NO"
Saying "no" is important, but skillful boundaries involve knowing when to say yes, and no, and "tell me more..."
This does not have to be complicated. Better Boundaries includes practical tools and resources to provide structure to customize your own relationships with boundaries.
Because the only thing your relationship have in common?
Is you.
HOWDY
I am a teacher.
What I teach is a distillation of tools derived from the study of human behavior from many origins, predominantly Eastern Philosophy, but you wouldn't know it if you didn't ask, because you'll complete this course with experience applying tools in every day situations - like deciding where to go for dinner, how to give and receive appropriate help, how to end a relationship, and how to figure out your own motivations.
I am not a therapist, and what I offer is not therapy. I do offer a lot of ways to leverage this work to support your therapeutic relationships, including how to find a therapist who best suits you, and how to get the most out of therapy sessions.
These tools are relevant in every relationship in your life - people, organizations, technology, and even time.
Because the central character in all of your relationships?
Is you.
Kari Kwinn
Module 1
compromise
Why is there drama around dinner?
It should NOT be a big deal, but deciding where to go for dinner with a work group, partner, or family is a lot more work than it's worth.
(compromise with anyone about anything)
Module 2
support
Why is there no instruction manual for adulting?
In the era of YouTube, nearly everything should be possible, but many of us feel isolated and alone making decisions.
(confidently find
the support you crave)
Module 3
resolution
Why does avoiding
this situation seem like
the best option?
Holidays, family functions, and group travel often feel like endurance sports, compelling us to lie & make up extravagant excuses.
(build up so much courage you don't even need it)
Module 4
motivation
Why am I overcomplicating this?
The cost benefit analysis is supposed to help us know which action to take, but we feel paralyzed and end up flipping a coin.
(find certainty & end useless overthinking)
WHY I TEACH ONLINE
(THERE'S NO PLACE LIKE HOME)
WHERE DO YOU LEARN BEST?
Have you ever asked yourself this question? Please do, and please put yourself there. I teach best in my pajamas, with tea by my side and my dog at my feet. Whether you're joining from home, the office, or from the road, you can make sure you've got the best seat in the house.
EVERYONE IS IN THE FRONT ROW, AND THERE IS NO BATHROOM LINE
Zoom allows everyone the same access, and when we take a bathroom break we each have our own private facilities. This may seem insignificant, but it is remarkably efficient.
ACCOUNTABILITY = THE BEST LEARNING ENVIRONMENT
The camera lets us stay accountable to the process, and learning in 90 minute increments over the course of a month means everyone will be fresh for each lesson (including me!). Teaching and learning in one-day immersive is possible, but cannot be as deep, because the mind becomes saturated and the teacher tired.
YOU WILL GET MY BEST
I only teach at times and in locations where I am able to offer you my absolute best, and this format allows for your global classmates to practice tools and share, and allows us to have 1:1 sessions to best tailor the tools to your current life.
This program is not for you if:
You are currently in therapy for an acute mental health concern (recent diagnosis, loss, or trauma).
You are in active addiction, grief, or trauma.
You are attempting to help someone who lives with you or for whom you are legally or financially responsible with their addiction or mental health condition.
You are trying to make a significant and life-changing decision, like whether to get divorced or quit a job.
You would describe your life as "a mess" or "in crisis."
