You Don't Have To Be Broken To  Be Better



Mini course

(self paced)

The first essential step to Better Boundaries

For those wanting an introduction to learn how to get more of what they really want in life sans drama or guilt

In this course, I'll teach you how dysfunctional compromise is keeping you stuck and help you build the muscles you need to approach and achieve compromise in any circumstance, with anyone.


(Live online /4 sessions)

A deeper dive into the complexities of adulting and boundaries over four modules.

In four small-group online sessions, we explore using Better Boundaries tools in a variety of circumstances.

After completing the program, you're invited to join other Better Boundaries alumni in quarterly calls to discuss and apply these tools.

Boundaries Master Course

(intensive coaching)

Year-long overhaul

Basic course + 8 more tools

Fully applied & integrated

Small group support

1:1 support

A big friggin' commitment

Applications available January 2021



Saying "no" is important, but skillful boundaries involve knowing when to say yes, and no, and "tell me more..."


This does not have to be complicated. Better Boundaries includes practical tools and resources to provide structure to customize your own relationships with boundaries.

Because the only thing your relationship have in common? 

Is you.




"I'm fine."

This course is for you if:

  • Your attention and energy are always pulled elsewhere, and your free time is gobbled up by obligations or distractions.

  • You are pretty darned put together, but still wonder at how other people seem to manage all aspects of adulthood. Did you miss the manual?


  • There is niggling drama that haunts your romantic relationships, family of origin, work place, or circle of friends, and you just want to bury the hatchet.


  • You know there is a life you would like to be living, and wish you could move it up the priority list.



  • You're pretty much fine, you'd just like to feel better.


Module 1

Why is there drama around dinner?

It should NOT be a big deal, but deciding where to go for dinner with a work group, partner, or family is a lot more work than it's worth.

(compromise with anyone about anything)

Module 2

Why is there no instruction manual for adulting?

In the era of YouTube, nearly everything should be possible, but many of us feel isolated and alone making decisions. 

(confidently find

the support you crave)

Module 3

Why does avoiding

this situation seem like

the best option?

Holidays, family functions, and group travel often feel like endurance sports, compelling us to lie & make up extravagant excuses.

(build up so much courage you don't even need it)

Module 4

Why am I overcomplicating this?

The cost benefit analysis is supposed to help us know which action to take, but we feel paralyzed and end up flipping a coin.

(find certainty & end useless overthinking)



This program is not for you if:

  • You are currently in therapy for an acute mental health concern (recent diagnosis, loss, or trauma).

  • You are in active addiction, grief, or trauma.

  • You are attempting to help someone who lives with you or for whom you are legally or financially responsible with their addiction or mental health condition.


  • You are trying to make a significant and life-changing decision, like whether to get divorced or quit a job.

  • You would describe your life as "a mess" or "in crisis."




I am a teacher.

What I teach is a distillation of tools derived from the study of human behavior from many origins, predominantly Eastern Philosophy, but you wouldn't know it if you didn't ask, because you'll complete this course with experience applying tools in every day situations - like deciding where to go for dinner, how to give and receive appropriate help, how to end a relationship, and how to figure out your own motivations.

I am not a therapist, and what I offer is not therapy. I do offer a lot of ways to leverage this work to support your therapeutic relationships, including how to find a therapist who best suits you, and how to get the most out of therapy sessions.

These tools are relevant in every relationship in your life - people, organizations, technology, and even time.

Because the central character in all of your relationships? 

Is you.

Kari Kwinn